Does wedding planning seem like a full-time job? Have your other half popped the question and now you’re preparing to take the next important step together?
After the champagne flowed and the celebrations are over, you’ll soon find you’re inundated with friendly ‘advice’ about your upcoming nuptials – but even close friends and family can cause minor panic as questions about guest lists, venues, dresses and the honeymoon begin.
Take a deep breath, a step back, and don’t worry – your wedding is an exciting new chapter, not a source of major stress.
Here are some popular wedding planning myths – and why they’re not true.
‘It’s going to cost a fortune.’
Only if you want it to. It is possible to have a beautiful wedding with a small budget, regardless of what people tell you – bigger isn’t always better. What’s important is that you end the day as a married couple – everything else can be adjusted to your personal, affordable budget.
‘You have to invite everybody.’
Oh no you don’t. While an engagement may bring obscure relatives like Great Aunt Mary (who you haven’t seen in five years) out of the woodwork, or lead to old colleagues that you only speak to on Facebook hinting for invites, nobody should expect an invitation. Work out how many people you can afford to host, and choose the people you want there the most – the people who have supported your relationship, are involved in your lives and who will make your day special.
‘You have to follow tradition.’
Says who? Your wedding day should be a reflection of who you are as a couple, and if that means shunning the usual church ceremony and wedding breakfast formalities, go for it. You don’t have to have lots of bridesmaids, you don’t have to have wedding cars, the only essential item is the wedding certificate – the celebrations can be whatever you want them to be, whether that’s a three course meal in a posh hotel or a ceilidh in a barn with a barbecue.
‘Your parents have to pay for things.’
While that may have been the case a couple of generations ago, it’s certainly not expected now. This is your wedding, your life step – if your mum and dad want to help with the cost, great, but don’t get engaged expecting hand outs.
‘You have to wear white.’
Even though you’re not going to be any less hitched if you say your vows in red, blue, purple or pink. Don’t fancy the big white dress? It’s your choice – wear whatever makes you feel comfortable, happy and fabulous on your wedding day.
‘Wedding food is rubbish.’
The days of dry chicken breasts and soggy vegetables are well and truly over. Wedding breakfasts can usually be adapted to include your favourite foods, and pre-wedding food tastings can help you design a menu that will wow your guests.
‘Asking a friend with a camera will be just as good as hiring a professional photographer.’
Be careful when Uncle Tom, cousin Liam or one of your mates offers to photograph your big day to save you the cost of a professional wedding photographer. All you have after the big day are the rings and the pictures, and weddings are hard work for a professional, let alone a family member or friend. Remember, if the pictures turn out badly, you can’t redo them. If you’re worried about cost, chat to photographers about your budget and discuss your options – cheaper packages, that cut out wedding albums or framed pictures, can be more affordable.